Grief can be all-consuming. I’ve lost both parents and can tell you it leaves you lost and broken. Grief comes in many forms not just in death, but it can also present through the significant loss of a relationship, marriage or job. When you’re suffering through grief you feel like you are living in an alternative universe. It’s horrible.
It can leave you barely functioning and curled up on the couch in shock. You move forward because you have to, it’s the circle of life. People try to be kind and tell you that as time passes things will get easier, and it does to some extent, but you will never be the same person that you were before. Your reality and world has been altered and you have to learn to live in this new world, minus the loved one, significant relationship, or career. When I looked back on my life and how I dealt with grief before, I realized that I had changed significantly in ways I would have never expected or have experienced, had I not gone through such a loss. I was surprised at the life lessons that I’d learnt in such a short period of time. Through grief I’d learnt to look at life differently. Here’s why experiencing grief changes your life and makes you a better person: 1. Your relationships become stronger When grief strikes, you really do find out who your real friends/family are. I’d always hear people say this to me, but never thought much else about it. When tough times come, grief sorts out who is there for you and who isn’t. This can have a further grieving effect on you through the loss of friends you thought would be there to help support you. You now see your relationships in their true light. If you didn’t realize it before, you realize now what amazing people you have around you, and you aspire to be the kind of friend that they have been to you: a brilliant one. Every relationship you have becomes more important and valuable. It changes how you and makes you want to become a more invested, attentive, giving person in relationships. 2. You get your finances in order This is a weird one. After going through probate after a death, or even through a divorce situation where finances are divided, you learn how important it is to manage money. You find yourself paying off debt quicker, wanting to prevent negative consequences if something ever happened to you. You manage your budget, realize that your savings account needs to pumped up in case of emergencies, and you are to become more financially savvy than ever. Grief teaches you that monetary issues don’t stop upon death, divorce, relationship breakdown, or career loss, and it’s important to put yourself in a good financial position in case anything unexpected was to happen. 3. You become healthier Before I went through my experience of grief, I thought I was 10 foot tall and bulletproof. Life was awesome. Yes I had extra pounds, yes, I needed a dental check up ,and yes I definitely should have been exercising more, but hey, I’ll get around to it, right? Watching a loved one pass from the effects of their deteriorating health, makes you realize the importance of looking after your own health. Keeping healthy has never become more important in order to keep disease and sickness at bay. Grief kicked my butt hard, and I found myself spending more time in the vegetable aisle at the supermarket, and getting regular check ups at the doctor to keep everything in check. The need to focus on becoming healthier was immediate; it changes how you think, feel, and treat your body. 4. You become more spiritual When you are faced with grief, you tend to look inside yourself more to seek answers. When we can’t find those answers we look to our higher power for comfort and solace. You re-evaluate your values and responsibilities. You meditate, you pray, you seek calmness and soothing. You become much more in touch with your spiritual side and incorporate that more into your daily life. 5. The little things don’t bother you anymore This was actually a godsend for me. I am a worrier. Pre-grief I used to get hung up on the little things, worrying constantly about the small details. When you lose a significant person in your life, you realize that the only things that really matter are the relationships you hold with other people. The decision about whether to buy a black car or a white one, or travel from Sydney to London via either Bangkok or Hong Kong, doesn’t seem like a big deal anymore. You don’t sweat the small stuff. 6. You make an effort to make more memories Sitting, watching someone pass or walk out the door and leave you, leaves you with only one thing to hang onto: memories. Memories are an important part of grief. They allow us to keep the loved one alive in our mind and hearts. In time you are able to sit back and remember all of the great times, funny moments, and the life you shared together. You realize the importance, therefore of creating more memories, of working less and holidaying more, of life experiences and spending more time with those you love. Making memories becomes a very high priority and one that will change your life significantly. 7. You love more completely The significance of the loss you feel through grief would make it understandable if you never wanted to love again. Ever. Why love when you will lose eventually? It shows you pretty fast that your love for people is worth every second, so you tend to love more completely, more freely and deeply. Grief is born out of love, and to love someone so much that you are consumed with sadness is only a testament to the love you felt for them. You find yourself showing more love, and falling in love a bit more easily, because you know now just how worthy you feel to have been blessed with it. I know from experience how difficult it is to wade through the grief process. The longing for the person or situation to return, the sadness, the unanswered questions, the ‘some days are better than others’ feeling, and the advice people who try to comfort you without experiencing the situation themselves. I’m not going to tell you that it gets better with time, but what i will tell you is that grief changes you. You look at life in a new light, you value it so much more, and become a better person because of it. I think this will make a good series of posts… character evaluations… why in the hell do I become attached to some characters… and on rare occasions before I know too much about them. I’m confused… so lets figure it out. This post may include Spoilers for the new Suicide Squad film so you have been warned! Around this time last year Star Wars release a new line of merchandise to promote the movie that came out last December. I was excited for the movie but baffled by the merchandise coming out so soon. I mean I didn’t even get a chance to meet the new characters so how in the world would I know what to buy? I’m not a buy whatever kind of geekdom collector. I cannot join those mystery box subscriptions because I like to know what I am getting. I make purchases based upon my attachment to the characters they represent. I don’t do free-for-all style collecting. With that said I would have been PISSED should I have bought anything Kylo-Ren… that guy is a whole different level evil! Something not learned until after I saw the movie. I remember seeing this new droid BB8 and thinking well he’s pretty cool but for all I knew he could be an ass. It was beyond me how people could drop money on a character that they never met! Fast forward a year later and I love that cute little droid and have accepted him as one of my favorites. Here is the confusing part… you ready? Then it was brought to my attention after I went to see Suicide Squad… and I am probably in the minority of people who enjoyed that movie. In the movie the relationship between the Joker and Harley is ever so slightly touched upon and yet as I come to learn… also very skewed. Or at the very least not all that fleshed out and obvious. Then again it kind of is. In the beginning of the movie when they are doing the whole character introduction thing you see the Joker and Harley in a car chase with Batman. Their car goes flying into the water. The scene cuts to Batman jumping into the water and all you see is the car with Harley hanging out the front window with no Joker in sight. Yet the rest of the movie would have you fooled that he is in love with her and wants his woman back and will risk leg and limb to do it. This is a lie! When I made the customary “Check-in… Hey I am at the movies post!” Someone asked me my thoughts. I said that I enjoyed it but felt the Joker was forced in and out of place. This person responded with “same basically, I also could have handled if they made the joker/harley relationship more obviously abusive because they should not be #relationshipgoals” What is this? I thought to myself. That dam A word is EVERYWHERE! So I did what any good geek/researcher/booklover would do. I researched the heck out of that relationship and they are absolutely NOT relationship goals. So when I see things like this on Facebook… I CRINGE...!!! This is in no way a relationship to be sought after... Harley Quinn in Animation She was first introduced to DC through an appearance in Batman: The Animated Series. For research purposes… yea like I didn’t enjoy it… I re-watched all the Harley Quinn episodes. It is clear that she is absolutley obsessed with the Joker and it is equally clear that he treats her like crap and she excuses it as “what relationship doesn’t have its ups and downs.” We first see her in season 1 episode 22 “Joker’s Favor.” Nothing much going on in this episode between the two other than she is clearly just one of his “henchmen.” She also acts as his personal announcer… his Vanna White so to speak. There was also one incident where he shoves her to the side… however nothing much is really learned about their “relationship” until he goes missing in the water.... She seems unfazed by the detectives accusations. You don’t truly get the picture of their relationship until season two episode 28 “Harley and Ivy.” I loved this one. Probably one of my favorites. I absolutely adored Poison Ivy’s girl power mantra. I have come to love her as well but will leave that analysis for another post. This episode begins with Harley and the Joker in a car chase with Batman after a failed robbery attempt. When they get back to their lair the Joker lays into Harley. He tells her she has contributed nothing to the gang and when she protests he kicks her out. She is defiant and says she will show him and the very next second says… She meets Poison Ivy when they both are caught robbing the museum. Poison Ivy takes Harley back to her home and a friendship begins to blossom. Over the course of the episode Harley is fighting her need of the Joker and the need to prove to herself she doesn’t need him. We also get glimpses into their relationship. She makes the following joke to Poison Ivy when she is scared of a needle. This irks Poison Ivy and she questions why Harley would want to be around such a man. She takes on the position of role model… meaning that she is going to help Harley grow a pair. She tell her that ... The episode then moves into a montage of crime sprees that has Gotham dubbing the due “The New Queens of Crime.” However, despite their success Harley finds herself still missing the Joker. Frustrated by her friend’s constant lamenting she says to her… till not quite understanding Harley caves and calls the Joker. Her curiosity on whether or not he misses her overrun her limited senses. Look how easily she is manipulated..!!! The Joker was glad to hear from her but not for the reasons she assumed. There was one scene earlier in the episode that showed him looking for a pair of socks and calling for Harley. One of his henchmen replied that he booted her. The Joker’s response… I see a not nice pattern here! Anyway when Harley called him he traced the call and showed up at Poison Ivy’s house. When he does Harley gives him a big hug much to Poison Ivy’s discontent. Harley soon learned that the Joker was not there for her but for all the stolen goods. This doesn’t seem to effect her though as at the end of the episode she still has hope the relationship will work out. We learn a little bit of Harley’s background in season 3 episode 7 “Harlequinade.” She is recruited by Batman to help him find the Joker. Batman asks her what is her obsession and she tells him about how as a doctor she had to listen to everyone else’s problems but when she came across the Joker he was the first one to listen to her. What stood out for me in this episode… and why I added it to this post… was her song she sang while distracting a bunch of mobsters. "I never knew that our romance had ended until you poisoned my food and I thought it was a lark when you kicked me in the park but now I think it was rude....!" "I never knew that you and I were finished until that bottle hit my head thought I tried to be aloof when you pushed me off the roof I feel our romance is dead..." "It wouldn’t have been so bad if you had told me That someone had taken my place But no..... No, you didn’t even scold me You just tried to disfigure my face..." " You’ll never know How this heart of mine is breaking It looks so hopeless but then Life used to be so placid Won’t you please put down that acid and say that we’re sweethearts again......" Sigh…. Harley in Suicide Squad
As I mentioned above in Suicide Squad their relationship is not fleshed out and have lead to memes such as this.... It is funny because neither one of these is a love story… Their relationship is skewed and I am interested in seeing where the movie makers are going to take it. It is clear to me though that there is no love here! The Joker cares only about the Joker. Harley is purely there for his entertainment and to do all his bidding. If she steps out of line BAM! Guys I was in a relationship like Joker and Harley and TRUST me you don’t want that... Some people say she has Dependent Personality Disorder but I think there is major Stockholm Syndrome in there as well. People with DPD become emotionally dependent on other people and spend great effort trying to please others. People with DPD tend to display needy, passive, and clinging behavior, and have a fear of separation This certainly somewhat describes what I have been reading about Harley. She is certainly dependent on the Joker and wants to please him but I don’t she she fears not being able to live without him. In that episode with Poison Ivy she clearly was able to function despite her longing for the Joker. Had she kept her distance I think she could have pulled through! However, when she concedes at the end of the comic that she will get help and live a peaceful life… until she sees the flower. This flower is what brings us to the Stockholm Syndrome. She feels a connection with her abuser and whenever he shows her a little bit of kindness she banished out any thoughts that he doesn’t care. The Joker uses these small acts of kindness to keep Harley on the leash. I truly think that with help and distance she can indeed survive without that manipulative assclown! When an abuser/controller shows the victim some small kindness, even though it is to the abuser’s benefit as well, the victim interprets that small kindness as a positive trait of the captor. In criminal/war hostage situations, letting the victim live is often enough. Small behaviors, such as allowing a bathroom visit or providing food/water, are enough to strengthen the Stockholm Syndrome in criminal hostage events. In relationships with abusers, a birthday card, a gift (usually provided after a period of abuse), or a special treat are interpreted as not only positive, but evidence that the abuser is not “all bad” and may at some time correct his/her behavior. So after the whole falling out the window and ending up in a asylum… the flower at the end made the whole event feel like a kiss and she still loves her puddin’! After all this I still feel for the character. I am pretty invested as we are connected on the mental level. I will continue to read the comics to come after. I wanna see her kick the Joker’s ass....!!! Calm’s Consume’s Me………..
I shut My Eyes And Once Again The Pleasures Strangles Me, I Taste The Tears Of Sweet Indulgence, Pain And Fantasy…..(Myself) The Vision Inside My Head…….(In Sick Reflection) The Emptiness Will Haunt You…….. Sanity Is Slowly Slipping From My Hands Now…… I’m Standing Closer To The Edge, Than I Should Be Allowed…..(Myself) Oh, What Little Regret I Have, Does That Make Me A Killer…???? hand in hand with the damned……… -RJA- ALESANA 7/10/2015 Women are predisposed by their genetics to have affairs as "back-up plans'" if their relationships fail.
The University of Texas study challenges the assumption humans have evolved to have monogamous relationships. The team's research has put forward the "mate-switching-hypothesis" which says humans have evolved to keep testing their relationships and looking for better long-term options. The senior author of the research, Dr David Buss, told the Sunday Times: "Lifelong monogamy does not characterise the primary mating patterns of humans. "Breaking up with one partner and mating with another may more accurately characterise the common, perhaps the primary, mating strategy of humans." For our distant ancestors – when disease, poor diet and minimal healthcare meant that few people lived past 30 - looking for a more suitable partner was necessary, researchers assert. Dr Buss said: "Affairs serve as a form of mate insurance, keeping a back-up mate should a switch become warranted in the future.’ "A regular mate may cheat, defect, die, or decline in mate value. "Ancestral women lacking a back-up mate would have suffered a lapse in protection, and resources." Checking yourself for misplaced expectations is also a great exercise in fight prevention. When you are irritated with your spouse, before you spout off, ask yourself, “Is this about an expectation I have? Have I ever mentioned this expectation to my spouse? What if I turned my expectation into a hope, holding nothing against my loved one if they don’t come through? Would I still be so upset?” One of the guarantees of holding onto expectations is disappointment. You will never be able to measure up to each other’s expectations 100% of the time. Hopes, however, have an entirely different perspective at their foundation. They are approached without expectation, without entitlement, and instead, when they are fulfilled, they are received with gratitude. Just think of the difference between a kid who expects to get the newest Nintendo for Christmas and one who merely hopes. The boy who expects the Nintendo and gets it may be pleased, but his excitement is sure to fade fast. After all, he expected to receive the Nintendo. Now, think of the kid who hopes and prays for it, and then opens that same gift. The second child is absolutely delighted, grateful to receive what he had hoped for, but did not expect. Which child would you like to be? As the giver, how would you rather be received? Removing expectations brings the possibility for you to delight in each other. As My husband and I worked through the Marriage material, he seemed to have a much easier time with it than I had. I kept bringing it up with him, “So, is he saying I should expect nothing at all from you? That you’re totally off the hook for everything? I mean, how is that going to work?” Tony, always patient and also very black and white, lovingly pointed out that I was also “off the hook” in this scenario. We talked together about the every day stuff we now hoped one another would help with – the trash, the checkbook, the wet towel on or off the bed – and we committed to keep talking about it as things came up. A lot has changed since we first learned these concepts about expectations. I’m home now with our two little girls, he works all day, and then often has some freelance work keeping him up late at night. The work it takes to keep our lives running smoothly – the chores, the time we spend together, the parenting, the time we spend with friends – shifts with the seasons. Just a few years ago, Tony did 90% of the cooking in our family. He loves to cook and he’s really good at it. Now that he works so much away from home, I cook more often than he does. We wouldn’t have dinner until 8 o’clock at night if I’d decided to keep that as an expectation instead of shifting my role in our marriage team. So, while the meals aren’t as creative as they once were, Tony makes me feel appreciated (even if he is dousing it in salt and pepper and hot sauce). Letting go of firm expectations allows us much more flexibility as our life together continues to change. Removing expectations can give you and your spouse room to breathe and love and serve each other and be grateful to one another for all of the little things each of you will do on a daily basis to make your lives work. It will give you clearer eyes to see when she puts the laundry in the drawers and when he takes a stab at making a meal. It will increase your gratitude for one another and decrease those daily frustrations. It takes some time to adjust, especially if you’ve been holding expectations for a while, but it is so worth the effort to stay married. first of all.... Im saying sorry kat situ 8 years ago is because its your Birthday and I tak dpt nak turun KL terikat dgn ikan Patin bodoh my dad.... merisik dah dekat so kenalah cari duit sikit dgn my mom punya grand gedabak majlis mengalahkan kahwin.....
Tapi Apa yg I nak Highlight kat sini ..... yg I ckp tadi bukan fiksyen, bukan kebetulan, adalah ayat2 yang terkandung dalam card ini shayunk........... 1] ""You do make me realize that without you Im just a Hopeless Person....."" Bayangkan everytime on early days berapa kali you hina kutuk I saying Im hopeless.... I dah ngaku awal2 fie.... sebelom kita kahwin I dah mengaku..... Imagine my feelings every single time you hina I saying all those things just because I wanna go out, I asked for a kiss through wassap...... etc... 2) ""Without Your Caring, My Life Would Be Fucked Up..."" Suicide Attempt Berkali2, Sasau berlari kaki ayam pukul 2-3 pagi security + topboys KL kejar and tenangkan I, I demam you buat bodoh, I ended up talking to myself, Dah mula Hampir2 start balik bawah jambatan punya lifestyle, I takde arah tuju terkapai2 on early days..... ( and Im sorry I will elaborate why its 9 months time later and not now....But Definately not because waiting for me to change fie..... Its a miracle people took years to build up but me...... I took less than 5 month to achieved all i have right now.....) 3) ""Without Your Love, I Would Die In Vain...."" Tak Payah Explained kaann this one..... kalau yg kenal arwah ayah chat, even shah rukh khan, for being 'DEVDAS', other words, DIED BECAUSE OF DEPRESSIONS..... you sendiri tahu, brapa hari sekali I menangis fie..??? Isnt that proof is more than enough ..>??? that my love is only for you..???? and I still take My swore and oath seriously towards you..??? Paling best yg I sampai ckp takleh terima Hakikat is you KNOW all this shayunk.... and yet you do it..??? so kenapa nak drama bagai if I do the same..???? example I KNOW you tak suka fie I talk bad about your bad parents which is so bad of me... I confess...!!!! (you should fear my RAP rather than me being aggressive...) and plus, I ckp benda btol, bukan fitnah.... macam you ckp ngadu kat my mom behind my back all the time saying me wanna rape my own SON...... astargfirullah..... 4)"" Please Put In Your Head That Ive Got No One Else But You..."" Ini Pun Tak Payah Explain..... You Know..... I got no one...... and yet you hadiahkan 9 bulan being ALONE with NO ONE ELSE tue.... kalau nak Tambah lagi perisa kasi sedap ayat nie, Including puasa and hari raya yg dah masuk maghrib baru dtg tapi taknak masuk umah beraya dlm kereta tak tahu apa motif you buat Allah murka ajee sebab naahhh back to normal.... 5) ""May God Bless Our Beautiful Relationship...."" He Did Fie.... He did.....Allah did bless our marriage despite kita berzina bagai tapi kita bertanggungjawab kita kahwin ikut cara Dia tak gugurkan anak bagai... I bersabar dan mengalah and look what we achieved on late 2013 sampailah ending 2014..... and as for you.... selain tempik bila I ajak berjemaah, you akan merobohkan satu masjid yg kita sama2 pacak tiang seri umah tue.... Well, thats It.... Full of facts without meroyan maki hamun hina caci keji busuk lengut lesen L bagai...... and this one kalau you tak baca adalah satu kerugian besar but you sebab Umpama you baca Card nie, you campak bawah store tangga and apa yg I tulis SEMUAAA you buat...... Firstly fie, Is this how you appriciate your "FIRST BIRTHDAY CARD FROM ME..???IRONIC IS YOU DID GO FOR ALL THE THINGS IVE MENTIONED THERE ON THE CARD.... AND I THOUGHT YOU REALLY CARE AND LOVED ME DESPITE IM SUCH A NAUGHTY BOY, BECAUSE 10 DAYS AFTER YOU RECEIVED THAT VERY FIRST CARD FROM ME, YOU GAVE ME YOUR VIRGINITY AS RETURN..... AND YOU EXPECT ME TO GO WITH THIS ARGUMENT WITH ANYTHING IMPROVEMENT BEEN ALREADY 5 MONTH WITH BUNCH OF AHIT THINGS FROM YOU TOWARDS ME FAR WORST THAN BREAKING YOUR VIRGINITY............. If you’ve asked yourself how to become a happier person, this is already a very good sign. Happiness is not something that happens to us by chance. Being happy is an achievable and learnable skill, which requires constant work on your attitude and depends on how you interpret your life situation. Happiness is largely a matter of choice. And it is probably the smartest life choice you can make. Recent studies show that happy people are 35% less likely to die early than unhappy ones!
So, what do you need to remember if you want to be truly happy? 1. Never dwell on the past “Learn to appreciate what you have before time makes you appreciate what you had.” – Unknown Your past is just a story. Everyone has a past – often full of pain, disappointment, missed opportunities, and unfulfilled expectations. No matter what your past looks like, it’s just a story – so don’t let it influence you. Make the present meaningful. 2. Never focus on what’s missing; look at what you actually have. “Happiness is not having what you want. It is appreciating what you have.”- Unknown Be grateful for what you have. You could waste hours counting the things you would like to improve, which would only take you away from appreciating your real life. Gratitude puts situations into perspective and rewires your mind toward a positive direction. 3. Never underestimate quality time with yourself. “Focus on loving yourself instead of loving the idea of other people loving you.” – Unknown Don’t confuse happiness with excitement; a lasting joy of life grows when your mind is in peace. Making time for yourself is as important as devoting time to your everyday duties. Regular meditation, sport, contact with nature, and quality (offline) time spent reading will help you reconnect with yourself and hear your intuition again. 4. Never stop improving yourself. “Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever”. – Mahatma Gandhi We are all different, and there is no perfect direction or path to our personal evolution. The whole point is to become the best version of YOU, and never stop taking lessons from your own life experiences. 5. Never be too harsh on yourself. “Be gentle with yourself. You’re doing the best you can.“ – Unknown Many of us are our own hardest critics, constantly diminishing every success. Accept that you will never be ideal – and see this as okay. In the process of self-development, embracing your own vulnerabilities has been scientifically proven to be a key component of happiness. 6. Never lose a sense of purpose in what you are doing. “What you do today is important, because you are exchanging a day of your life for it.” – Unknown Your time and life power are limited, so spend them wisely and target your energy towards something meaningful. Finding a purpose helps you live a bigger life. 7. Never treat your body badly. “Your body is precious. It is your vehicle for awakening. Treat it with care.” – Buddha A truly happy soul can only live in a healthy body. Your body will “send you a bill” for the trash you’ve eaten, the sports classes you’ve skipped, your long nights of partying, and your long hours of stressful work. Treat your body as your biggest investment; it will have to serve you your entire life. 8. Never value material things more than experiences. “Your actions are your only true belongings.” – Allan Lokos Experiences bring people more happiness than possessions, which never keep you satisfied. Experiences will last in your head forever, nourish your mind, and become a memory which will light up your face with a smile on a bad day. 9. Never compare yourself to other people. “True happiness is when you are living your life without waiting for anyone’s approval.”- Unknown Everyone lives life at a different pace, which makes us each special and beautiful. The sooner you embrace your uniqueness and the differences between you and other people, the happier you will be. Surround yourself with people who appreciate you for who you really are without trying to change you or reframe you. 10. Never let your bad thoughts grow. “The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts” – Marcus Aurelius Being judgmental, jealous, or angry will at some point turn against you. A bad thought can trigger bad speech, just as bad words provoke bad actions. Don’t let your mind initiate anything you’d be ashamed of later. 11. Never fear to embrace change. “You can’t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one.”- Unknown As you accept the laws which change our life, our bodies, and the way we evolve, you will see the unique beauty of every moment in life with all its natural flow. Be open to new opportunities and humbly accept changes you can’t influence. 12. Never blame others for your own failures. “Don’t look for someone who will solve all your problems. Look for someone who won’t let you face them alone.” – Unknown Be responsible for your actions and their outcomes. Taking responsibility gives you a sense of power over your life; blaming your life on circumstances can make you feel powerless. 13. Never tame your curiosity. “If you do nothing unexpected, nothing unexpected happens.” – Fay Weldom Be curious and ask a lot of questions. Travel, observe, read, watch, and talk with smart people to open your mind and explore the world. Inquisitive thinking and a passion for exploring will nourish your mind. 14. Never stop being mindful. “Don’t wait for the perfect moment. Take the moment and make it perfect” – Unknown Learn to mindfully observe, smell, hear, and fully appreciate every minute of your life. Those who can’t conscientiously notice and appreciate the present moment aren’t able to be fully happy. 15. Never forget about your loved ones. “The only way to have a friend is to be one.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson Care about those who are happy to see you succeed in life and support you in difficult times. Avoid harsh critiques and make sure these people know how glad you are that they’re a part of your life. 16. Never worry about the things you cannot influence.“Worry is a total waste of time. It doesn’t change anything. All is does it steal your joy and keep you very busy doing nothing.”- Unknown How many times has a situation you’ve worried about not come true? Worrying about things you can’t influence is a waste of time and makes you feel unnecessarily miserable. 17. Never attach happiness to something in the future.“Think of all the beauty that is still left in and around you and be happy.” – Anne Frank Many people live like they’re waiting for something – to find a perfect love partner, to get promoted, or to retire with a good pension. Don’t postpone your happiness to a moment in the future; life is all about enjoying the journey. 18. Never stop meeting new people.“People are lonely because they build walls instead of bridges.” – Joseph F Newton Surrounding yourself with happy people makes you happier. Meeting new people nowadays is easy, due to open lifestyles, new technologies, internet forums, popular mobilr apps. It would be a waste to not make the most of this opportunity. Even people who enter your life for a short time can teach you important lessons and make your life more colorful. 19. Never let your ego win.“Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It’s a relationship between equals.”- Pema Chodron Acting with anger and following your insecurities can only complicate your life situation. Instead, act with compassion and humility towards others. Showing maturity will make your relations with others more joyful and fulfilling. 20. Never voluntary harm.“A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.” – Mark Twain Every choice you make, every word you say, and every purchase you make impacts someone’s life. Choose to be a good person. 21. Never stop living life to the fullest.“Hug harder. Laugh louder. Smile bigger. Love longer.” – Unknown Live intensely. Do what you want and enjoy it with all your senses. Start working on fulfilling your dreams as soon as possible. “Hug harder. Laugh louder. Smile bigger. Love longer.” 22. Never forget to smile.“Use your smile to change the world; don’t let the world change your smile.” – Unknown You don’t know what the person in front of you is going through. Be kind to others and share your smiles and positive words. Isn’t it amazing to make someone’s day a little better in such a simple way? 23. Never be afraid to completely change your life.“If you’re still looking for that one person who will change your life, take a look in the mirror.” – Roman Price It is never too late to completely change your life and make it more meaningful. Let your mind be free and surprise you from time to time. Go with the flow and open yourself up to different possibilities. 24. Never be afraid of being alone.“If you make friends with yourself you will never be alone.” – Maxwell Maltz Don’t be afraid of being alone. Happiness is internal, and you don’t need anyone or anything to be happy. Learn to have fun on your own: walk, travel, eat good food, etc. Being alone doesn’t mean to you have to be lonely. Look at monks for example – being happy in solitude is a virtue. 25. Never stop organizing your own happiness.“Confidence is preparation. Everything else is beyond your control.” – Richard Kline Happiness appears where dreams meet preparation. Make a conscious everyday effort to shape yourself and your life the way you want. 26. Never stop loving.“Love as much as you can from wherever you are.” – Thaddeus Golas True love doesn’t lose value over time; it multiplies and comes back to you the more you give it away. The meaning of our whole existence would be much simpler if love meant only romantic love. Love everyone who you think deserves and needs your love. Love the Earth and the people who have helped you become who you are. Love your own life. |
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AuthorWell, the Author is not exactly The Queen, and obviously it's The King, who is trying to get the Feel and Moods, How to be in the Queen's shoes and how to be the most firm but yet gotta admit in denial upon our relationship... I, The King, Justrail Ashouza, Officially declare WAR upon those who's been trying to ruined my relationship.... I've sacrificed a lot for my family, and that will be Financially, Time, Energy,and All I get in return my royal family dumb me for nothing... believe me my fellow citizens, The Queen is NOT GUILTY upon this... |